While there may not be a clinical definition of what constitutes a cheater, the fact is that cheaters exist and they cause far more damage than it’s usually worth. Whether you consider cheating as sex or simply a kiss, no matter what the parameters of your relationship, a betrayal is a betrayal.
Here are a few things you may have never known about cheaters, but probably should because, you know, there are many of them out there. You might as well educate yourself on the breed of people who are fine with infidelity.
1. Cheaters are more likely to be rock and roll fans
Because music and sex really do go hand-in-hand, researchers have found that when it comes to cheaters, 41 percent of them prefer rock music to all other genres. Falling in line after that, respectively, is pop music (16 percent), country music (11 percent), classical music (7 percent), and rap/hip-hop came in last place with only two percent of cheaters favoring that stuff.
2. When women cheat, it’s dangerous business
For some reason, a long time ago a rumor was started that when it came to adultery, men held the honor of being the most likely to stray. But it’s a lie! Not only do women cheat, but studies have found the difference between the two sexes is that usually when women stray, it’s to fulfil an emotional need as opposed to a physical one.
Emotional involvement is pretty much just one or two steps away from a completely kaput relationship that can’t be saved. Purely physical entanglements might still have a chance of getting a relationship back on track.
3. Cheaters are actually happy in their relationships
Cheating doesn’t necessarily mean that the cheater thinks their relationship is the absolute pits. While that’s not to suggest that every cheater feels this way, the majority of those who commit adultery are happy in their lives and relationships, and aren’t even looking for a break up.
According to a Rutgers University study, 56 percent of men who had affairs were happy with their partners, while 34 percent of women who cheated were also really content in their relationship. They just do it, because, well… they can.
4. Cheaters get “friskier” when they’re cheating
According to intimacy expert Mary Jo Rapini, once that sex drive is awoken in the cheating party, sometimes after years of hibernation, things can go from zero to 20 with their spouse, fast. It might seem like things have turned around with all that extra attention, but in reality, there’s a little somethin’ somethin’ going on elsewhere.
5. Women are more likely to cheat when they’re ovulating
This sounds like something out of the How To Be A Good Wife handbook from 1957, but it’s true. As UCLA researcher Dr. Martie Haselton explains, “We found that women were most attracted to men other than their primary partner when they were in the high fertility phase of the menstrual cycle. That’s the day of ovulation and several days beforehand.”
Yikes! Not only that, but women feel sexier when their body is in tip-top mode to make a baby, so combine that with their desire for men other than their partner and we have a double yikes situation.
6. Cheaters usually cheat with someone they know
It may be comforting to think that if your partner is going to cheat, it will be with a one-night stand, but cheaters tend to stick closer to home. In fact, the most common place for an affair to blossom is at work. Research has found that 85 percent of cheating starts amongst coworkers, with friends and neighbors not too far behind.
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